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Nov. 16th, 2009

Time to Ramble On

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Oct. 16th, 2014

Blue Priestly

"Like A Girl"

So, way back in the summer, sodakey shared this video. Recently, I went back to it and shared it with my daughter who is of middle school age now. The school provided all the students with iPads this year, so I just emailed a link to her and let her watch on her own. I wanted to let her form her own opinions about it without my input--at least, at first. I wanted to get her initial reaction.

When she had finished watching it, she immediately took her earbuds out and said, "So, what did you think about that?" I put my laptop down and turned to face her directly and said, "I'm more interested in knowing what you think about it." She said, "I think they're right. People at school say that sometimes, but I just look at them and say," she shrugged her shoulders, "So? I am a girl. Nothing wrong with that." She went on to say that some of the girls get really mad, but said she didn't because she doesn't care, there's nothing wrong with being a girl. Sometimes I wonder how in the world I managed to get such a smart kid.

Anyway, here's the video in case any of you would like to share it with your kids.

Aug. 5th, 2014

Prettyboy

Well, It Was Fun While It Lasted

I hate being unfriended on LJ. Even if I don't talk to that person much, it still feels like such a kick in the feelings. Especially when we've been friends for such a long time. It's that feeling that stays my hand on weeding through my own friends list. I'd like to go through and cut anyone who hasn't posted in a long while or who never talks to me, but I know how I feel when I get cut from someone's list, so I don't.

Now Tumblr's a whole different thing. I unfollow kinda regularly there...especially if they keep posting porn, political type things or if they don't follow me back and I'm looking to make room for new followers. I don't need to win any popularity contests--too old for that crap--so I try to keep the number of people I follow under 200. My eyes always bug when some of the people celebrate almost reaching 1,000 followers by running contests to get more followers. I find that so weird. How do you even keep up with a 1,000 people? I was recently unfollowed on Tumblr and Twitter by a fellow Dean girl because I supported Aisha's comments at Nerd HQ. I'm still not so sure why some people lost their cool over that, but I guess I was more surprised then offended by those unfollowings. *shrugs*

Yeah, I know I've been really absent, but I decided to enjoy my summer and not worry about anything online.I haven't checked my e-mail in a coon's age and there are days my laptop isn't even fired up. I've been doing cleaning projects around the house, mostly. As I prepare to go back to work, though, I'll probably be around a little more since I'm tethered to one spot for half the day.

Hope everyone has been having a great summer!

P.S. I'm loving getting to re-watch Jaws this week. What a great send off to my summer vacation.

Jun. 22nd, 2014

Angsty Dean BW

Dean Looks Good in B & W.

Well, since I had to switch my LiveJournal back to the old style in order to get my memories back, I went ahead and updated my profile information. I used my own creation for my profile picture so I wouldn't have to worry about crediting anyone for the actual picture. All I did was take a banner thing I posted on Tumblr and modified it. It doesn't seem to want to post to the correct size, depending on if you are using the old LJ layout or if your using the new upgrade layout. But, not much I can do about that.

This:
Became this:

Jun. 19th, 2014

*facepalm*

ElJay Problems

Okay, can anyone explain to me where the statistics part of my profile went? I can no longer find my memories (or any part of the right-hand side of my profile) without manually typing the address into the url address window because that part of my profile has just disappeared.  :(

*headdesk*
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May. 22nd, 2014

Fate/Care

Is Dean Winchester Really a Monster Now? Season Finale Reaction.

It’s been 2 days since the Supernatural season finale aired and I find myself unable to get it off my mind. I can’t stop thinking about it. More importantly, I find myself unable to stop FEELING so much about it. As I told someone else, I have to give Carver and the writers credit on giving me something to think about, on giving me something I want to talk about endlessly. I haven’t felt this passionate, this obsessed about this show since probably around season three or four. No Rest for the Wicked was the last finale that affected me like this, but even that wasn’t quite the same because I wasn’t so afraid for Dean then as I am now. The fact that I’m so moved and feeling so much, that I have so many questions, makes me happy because its nice to have that spark back—but on the other hand, as the adrenaline wears off, I’m starting to also feel depressed as well. Depressed for Dean.

It seems ridiculous for someone my age to be so involved with a TV show that I’m letting it have such a huge impact on me. The night after the finale aired, I woke up at 3 AM, my mind spinning and my heart still racing. How is that possible? It’s possible because I have so much invested in Dean Winchester. I can understand how playing Dean has taken its mental toll on Jensen, because I don’t even have to live in Dean’s skin and its taken its toll on ME. Over the years, I’ve written many a paragraph describing my love for Dean and what he means to me. I’ve created fan videos, fan art and written fanfiction (the general, PG variety). There’s not another character, literary or otherwise, that has ever moved me like Dean Winchester. I fell in love with him during the Pilot, September 13th, 2005. I was completely obsessed and entered into fandom for the first time by the second half of the that first season. He has captured my heart and my attention like no other character. I’ve stuck with this show even when there were times it upset me more than it made me happy.

Because of “Devil’s Trap,” I began writing again—something that has taken a place of great importance in my identity and how I see my life. Its become a channel for all the creative stuff that’s going on in my head (because, there’s—no lie—a constant stream of storytelling going on in my head all the time). Because of Dean, I’ve made friends, lost friends (who stopped watching SPN or just disappeared), made enemies, and lost enemies who became friends. I’ve lost a lot of sleep, shirked duties (mostly laundry :p) because of this character and this show. I’ve been through some major life changes over the last ten years and there have been times that focusing on this character and Jensen Ackles has been the light at the end of the tunnel, the thing that got my mind off the hard life situations that I had no power or control over. Its given me escape when life was too hard. I’ve lived with Dean Winchester being the center of my creative world and my dream world for nearly ten years now. So, yes, I’m deeply, irrevocably involved in this character and his well being.

I guess it shouldn’t be such a surprise that I’d have such mixed feelings about “Do You Believe in Miracles.” I’m not even sure how to put my thoughts and feelings into any kind of ordered sense even as I write this. I’m moved, I’m depressed, I’m upset, I’m scared, I’m heartbroken, I’m excited, I’m confused and I keep cycling through all these emotions to the point that I’m not really sure what I feel. Over a character on a TV show (thank you Jensen Ackles for keeping me addicted to Dean).

When season 9 began, I really didn’t know what to expect. Though I was still in love with Dean as much as ever, I was holding the show at a distance because there were things going on with that I didn’t like. It bothered me too much to invest too much in something that was making me unhappy. I won’t go into all the reasons for my unrest, but I will say that a large looming part of it was how the brothers were being portrayed. Even though I am a 100 %, through and through Dean girl, I’ve always also been invested in the brother relationship as well and I’ve always hated their fighting (or even fighting with Cas). The one thing I disagree with Jensen about is that the brothers would have nothing to do but drink beers if there was no conflict between them—no, Jensen, no.

There can be conflict of all kinds from many directions w/o Sam and Dean raging at each other. And these last two years Sam and Dean have felt more like strangers than brothers, like enemies who decided to call a truce for a common goal than the family that was once irrationally, psychotically codependent. I know brothers bicker, but this was all out war. The things they’ve said to each other, hard to imagine you could ever find a place of forgiveness—there was nothing “mature” about the things that were said in anger and in spite (even if it did come from a place of hurt). This stopped feeling like a show about family.

The bond between Dean and Sam has been more or less broken to some degree for me since season four—but it reached an all-time high during season 8. I finally got to the point that I just had to stop caring about them as brothers and focus on Dean only—it was that, or begin to hate Sam for the pain I felt he was heaping on the one person in his life who had loyally sacrificed everything for him repeatedly. I felt angry at Sam, really angry. When the second half of season 9 began, I was furious at Sam, livid, because I felt he was being purposely cruel—but because I was able to put him in the ‘don’t care about this’ box in my brain, I think I was successful in avoiding hating him. Obviously, I was successful because, otherwise, I wouldn’t have been so moved by this scene from the finale: http://novembersguest.tumblr.com/post/86373812785/clairvoyantsam-im-proud-of-us#.U34P-vldXhc

That scene, folks. That scene went a long way toward making this episode a positive for me. That scene is the first time in a very long time I felt like Sam was Sam and that he cared about Dean. Do you see how Sam cradles Dean’s head there in the 7th and 9th pic? That’s how you touch someone you love. And Sam cried, really cried as he clung to Dean’s dead body. The loving way Sam lays Dean’s body on Dean’s bed (“…it remembers me…” echoes in my head) and we see that he’s cleaned the blood off Dean’s face and removed his jacket. All these little touches speak of real love, something that has been sorely lacking from Sam’s character for ages. It also helped that he admitted he lied to Dean when he said he wouldn’t do the same. Obviously, Sam has proven that he would’ve done the exact same thing to save Dean that Dean did for him (and has no reason to be angry about it)—so its time Sam let it go and accept it’s who they are to each other.

Does that scene erase all the things Sam said to Dean in The Purge? No, absolutely not. Sam still has a way to go in winning me back, but this was a step in the right direction (I sincerely hope Jared continues to push for a better version of Sam). I’m sorry, I know not everyone will agree with my feelings on this, but I want to enjoy that scene and what it means to me and these characters for just a moment. For the first time, in a long time, I felt a small stirring of love for the brothers again and was reminded of how much I used to enjoy their bond back when I still believed in it. I’m still upset with Sam, make no mistake about that. His words to Dean this season were designed to hurt Dean in the worst possible way and pushed Dean over the edge, bringing him to where we are now. I don’t take that lightly.

Sam should take responsibility for his part in this, because if he had shown Dean some compassion and forgiveness when Dean stood on the bridge confessing his sins and fears, we wouldn’t be here now. I know Sam was mad and he was hurt—but his words weren’t words thrown out in the heat of a passionate fight. These were calculated words designed to cut deep and were followed up by months of the cold shoulder at a time when Dean needed him the most. He left Dean to suffer alone (because Cas was absent). He left Dean to fall into despair and self-loathing the likes of which we’ve never seen before…and that’s saying something. He let Dean down in a big way after Dean has repeatedly been there for him. So, no, I don’t think that moment in the finale erases all that came before, but it does give me hope that we can get there. To me, that is a good thing. A really, really good thing.

Besides, the truth is, there is nothing Sam can say to make those things okay. There’s no apology that can erase how much he hurt Dean. The only way Sam can fix this is through his actions. Actions are the only believable way for Sam to make this good between them again. You have to start somewhere, right? Well, this was it, the beginning (at least, I hope it continues). Either way, we know how this show works and they’re never going to give us an in-depth resolution between Sam and Dean like we want—and its never going to go back to the way it was the first few seasons. So, for now, I’m choosing to take what I can get and make the most of it.

Something else about the finale that I deeply appreciate, Dean stayed Dean up until his dying breath. Dean’s foremost concern remained on Sam, as always, for better or for worse. That’s Dean. It will be easier on you if you can accept that about him. He could’ve held a grudge against Sam, he could’ve died in Sam’s arms with spiteful words on his tongue—but he didn’t. His last act was to place a loving hand on Sam’s cheek. His last words to Sam were that he was proud of them. That’s Dean. He forgives. He loves. He has a heart so big, he loves enough for the both of them and several others. No matter how much some fellow fans might sometimes wish he’d tell Sam to get lost, I am glad he didn’t—not in this circumstance. That’s not who he is and that’s an admirable quality in my eyes. If anyone sees him as being weak for that, so be it. I love him for it. He always rises above his own needs and his own hurts to love those he holds in his heart. That is real strength. Its easy to be vengeful and angry, its hard to be selfless and forgiving.

Despite the Mark’s influence, when the going got tough, Dean was still strong enough to see what the Mark was doing to him. In the end, he recognized its destructive influence and made it blatantly clear that he would choose death over becoming something else. He didn’t want that. Despite the “high” he got from the power of the Mark, Dean fought back, knew he would rather die than let it make him a monster. He chose and he chose rightly. Which is what makes what happened at the end so very hard for me to accept (but also gives me great comfort knowing what happened wasn’t his fault). The Mark took the choice out of his hands and turned him anyway, against his will.

I admit, I wasn’t ready for Dean to be rid of the Mark completely. It’s been years and years and years since Dean had a storyline. It’s been since season four since Dean seemed important to the Supernatural story for being Dean and not Sam’s brother or anyone’s support system. So, yeah, I’ve been excited. It’s great to see Dean have something important going on in his personal story that is all his. The best part? Jensen Ackles. Give the man something meaty to do and he will take that and nuance, tease and act the last drop out of it. He will give his all to that role. He will make you FEEL it in your bones—you will believe Dean is a real person, you will feel what he feels. Dean has broken my heart, scared me and made me believe in heroes of the human variety.

In her review of the finale, gaelicspirit pointed out when Jensen is at the top of his game, Jared reciprocates. Jared seems to feed off of Jensen’s energy and bring his best too. I agree with that assessment. Both Jensen and Jared’s acting improves when Dean has a challenging role and, in turn, the overall quality of the show increases substantially. I love it. I love seeing actors in their element giving themselves over to their craft so completely. Its inspiring. Jensen Ackles will never know how much I appreciate his efforts for this character, how much he personally has made Dean meaningful to me, but I feel it nonetheless. Those of you who will get that chance to see him in person, please make sure he knows that he rocks our world in all the best and most painful ways and how much we love and appreciate him for it. Jensen is directly responsible for making Dean so important to us and he deserves credit for that.

So, yeah, I’ve been enjoying the Mark of Cain storyline for these reasons, but at the same time, I feel like I’ve gone into mourning over the possibility that Dean has lost his humanity. I hurt for Dean’s lost humanity, the most important thing to him—his identity. The thought that Dean has become the thing he hates most upsets me beyond words. I hate that when we come back in the fall, Dean might not be Dean anymore. That the human Dean— the righteous man who fought against monsters, Hell, demons and angels, to always do what is right—might be truly gone and the very thing he’s died fighting against is his new reality. Around Tumbr, people have been blogging fan art that contains the words, “You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.” It worries me that perhaps Dean has done both. He died a hero, but has he also been reborn a villain? I hope not. I just don’t think I could stand watching that happen.

The only way I can be okay with what has happened to Dean is if, somewhere inside, Dean is still there. Our Dean. I’m hoping that there will be enough humanity left in Dean to fight against his new nature. We know he’s not a typical demon. He didn’t go to Hell where his soul was burned away—he didn’t sell his soul or make a deal (like Cain). He isn’t possessed (which is why his anti-possession tattoo doesn’t work). But, Dean the man is dead…so what exactly is he now? Is he like Cain? If so, Cain had the ability to do the right thing. He married and he put violence behind him for his wife. Will Dean have that same control?

Crowley said to Dean, “Listen to me Dean Winchester. What you’re feeling right now, its not death. It’s life. A new kind of life.” Was he talking about a new kind of life as a demon or did he mean something that has never been before? A new creature? Is Dean something entirely other than human or demon. Does he mean life as in something living or…what, exactly? We don’t know, but I’m hoping there is humanity left in Dean and that our Dean will rise above whatever the Mark has done to him to conquer any control it has over him. I hope Dean will be able to resist. The last thing I want out of this is to see Dean truly become evil or to see Sam and Cas having to hunt him. There’s a better story to be told through seeing Sam and Castiel support and stand by their brother and friend and in seeing Dean use his internal strength to hang on to who he really is inside, where it matters. I want to see him prove to himself that he is not a killer or poison to everything he touches.

But I’m scared. I’m scared that’s not how it will play out. I’m afraid that Dean’s legacy will be full circle tragedy in which he is the monster. I’m worried that we won’t recognize him or see the man we love there anymore. I’m afraid that we will suffer through another season of the brothers fighting against each other instead of side by side.

And where do we go from here? How do you fix this? Dean’s not a normal demon (if one at all), so I don’t see how the cure would work on him. Besides, no way do I want to watch Sam going through the trials again. Cain made it pretty clear that he wants Dean to kill him, so he’s not likely to be willing to take the Mark back. Even if Cain can and will take the Mark back, Dean died. The man, the human, died. What does that leave behind if the Mark is removed? A dead body? A regular demon? What? Cain killed himself at some point, but was still alive after he passed the Mark to Dean and, evidently, still had demon powers. Cain also sold his soul and spent time in Hell—which makes him different from Dean.

Just about the time I convince myself maybe Dean’s not a true demon, Crowley’s words come back to me. “Open your eyes, Dean. See what I see. Feel what I feel. Let’s go take a howl at that moon.” Ominous. Creepy. Chilling. That’s what I feel when he speaks those words. How can any good come from Dean seeing what Crowley sees, feeling what Crowley feels? Who, but a beast, howls at the moon?

And what about how Dean obeys Crowley? Will he be aligned with Crowley now? Cain obviously was more powerful than Crowley and not under anyone’s control—but does this apply to Dean? And why was this done in this manner? Could anyone have told Dean to open his eyes and he would? Did he need the blade in order for it to happen? Was those words Crowley spoke chosen for a specific reason? Was it like a spell? I don’t know. I want to know why Crowley started to believe in the myth of Cain simply because Dean chose not to eat a cheeseburger. I don’t have these answers and its really hard knowing I have to wait four months to find out.

So here I am, confused about how I feel, but feeling so very passionate about whatever it is I do feel. I hope for better things for next season. I hope we get to see Dean and Cas’s friendship rekindled, as its been sorely lacking this year. I hope that along with the hurt Dean feels, we finally get some comfort and even some appreciation. Hurt without the comfort becomes too overwhelming and depressing after a while. I need to have some good things going on for Dean. Some happiness. I need for the veil of darkness to lift, even if only a little. I need for there to be support for Dean, from Sam and Cas. He deserves it. Above all, I hope that whatever happens, its something Dean can live with. Something I can live with, too. Dean is my hero. He has been my hero for a decade—I really don’t want to lose that now. And, please, please don’t let there be anymore secrets or lies between Dean/Sam/Cas.

*Note: Please excuse any mistakes within, I was pretty distracted when I began typing this, so I hope it makes sense. Also, apologies for the length. I needed to get some of it out.

May. 14th, 2014

Fuming

Me On Dean Hate

This is my face when I see someone hating on either Dean or Jensen. You don't have to have an account to view.

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Mar. 12th, 2014

Bloody Face

An FYI On Going AWOL

Just a note to let you all know that I've been really sick for over a week and am behind on all communication. I have 500 unread e-mails, missed four days of work and have not been online for days--so if you sent me something and have not heard from me, its because I've not been around and it may take a while for me to get around to it. I'm still recovering and only spend so much time online, the rest of the time is spent at work or sleeping. I'm pretty exhausted and still don't feel up to par.

On top of being sick, I also had a bad reaction to some of my medicine. Apparently I'm allergic to penicillin now and don't tolerate albuterol at all. The penicillin is just causing swelling and hives, but that inhaler--thought I was gonna die. My heart tried to beat right out of my chest and I couldn't breathe. Scary stuff.

So, please, give me a little time to catch up and to get to feeling better. Its been a slow process and I'm feeling extremely overwhelmed by everything. I was actually glad we didn't have a new Supernatural episode last night because I wasn't up to the emotional toll the show takes these days. Anyway, sorry for not getting back to those who have reached out to me in the last week--I really appreciate the communication and I will get around to as much as I can as quickly as I can. Its nice to know that if I drop off the face of the planet, someone notices. :)

Hugs to all and hope you are all staying well!
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Feb. 10th, 2014

Finger to lips thoughtful

Personality Tests--Bit 'O Fun

Harmony-seeking Idealists are characterized by a complex personality and an abundance of thoughts and feelings. They are warmhearted persons by nature. They are sympathetic and understanding. Harmony-seeking Idealists expect a lot of themselves and of others. They have a strong understanding of human nature and are often very good judges of character.

But they are mostly reserved and confide their thoughts and feelings to very few people they trust. They are deeply hurt by rejection or criticism. Harmony-seeking Idealists find conflict situations unpleasant and prefer harmonious relationships. However, if reaching a certain target is very important to them they can assert themselves with a doggedness bordering on obstinacy.

Harmony-seeking Idealists have a lively fantasy, often an almost clairvoyant intuition and are often very creative. Once they have tackled a project, they do everything in their power to achieve their goals. In everyday life, they often prove to be excellent problem solvers. They like to get to the root of things and have a natural curiosity and a thirst for knowledge. At the same time, they are practically oriented, well organized and in a position to tackle complex situations in a structured and carefully considered manner. When they concentrate on something, they do so one hundred percent - they often become so immersed in a task that they forget everything else around them. That is the secret of their often very large professional success.

As partners, harmony-seeking idealists are loyal and reliable; a permanent relationship is very important to them. They seldom fall in love head over heels nor do they like quick affairs. They sometimes find it very difficult to clearly show their affection although their feelings are deep and sincere. In as far as their circle of friends is concerned, their motto is: less is more! As far as new contacts are concerned, they are approachable to only a limited extent; they prefer to put their energy into just a few, close friendships. Their demands on friends and partners are very high. As they do not like conflicts, they hesitate for some time before raising unsatisfactory issues and, when they do, they make every effort not to hurt anyone as a result.

Adjectives that describe your type:
introverted, theoretical, emotional, planning, idealistic, harmony-seeking, understanding, peace-loving, sensitive, quiet, sympathetic, conscientious, dogged, complicated, inconspicuous, warm-hearted, complex, imaginative, inspiring, helpful, demanding, communicative, reserved, vulnerable


I found the results to be pretty darn accurate. Curious about yours? Take the quiz here:   http://www.ipersonic.com/test.html
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Feb. 5th, 2014

Mad World

My Thoughts On SPN's The Purge

Last night's Supernatural seriously left me feeling depressed. It seems a large number of people have forgotten the basic premise of this show, including Sam. But I'll get to that in a moment. First, let me get a few things off my chest.

Since when is Dean the bad guy in all of this? Why is it suddenly all on him to shoulder the blame for everything bad that has happened? Did we forget that it was Gadreel that betrayed & tricked Dean? Dean thought this was an angel he could trust, one that Cas had given his approval of and said was trustworthy--so don't go blaming Kevin's death on Dean. And the closing of the gates? All Sam. I'm sorry, but he made that choice. He didn't have to listen to Dean. If he was ready to die, if he really wanted to complete the trials, all he had to do was continue with them.

Also, Sam is the one who convinced Dean he wanted to live. How was Dean to know Sam was ready to die? Sam took on the trials under the whole premise that he wanted to live and that he wanted to show Dean there was a light at the end of the tunnel. All Sam has done since is take away the light that keeps Dean going. When Gadreel appeared to Sam as Dean, Sam chose to live AGAIN. If he really wanted to die, he could have denied him and walked peacefully away with Death. Gadreel couldn't do anything without his consent. Sam didn't want to die either of those times--seems like its just a convenient guilt trip to lay on Dean.

No way Show or anyone else is going to convince me that Dean has caused more harm than good (wow, this coming from Sam who has the innocent blood of people on his hands via the demon blood AND soulless Sam? Talk about more harm than good--but Dean forgave him and supported him through that). Wasn't it Sam who told Dean in What Is and What Should Never Be that what Dean does was worth it? That what Dean does is worth all the pain and sacrifice because he saves people? Sam has encouraged Dean to continue to make the choices he makes over and over. Sam has been an agent in the decisions that Dean has made. Even in Sacrifice, he put Dean in the position of swearing that Dean would always put Sam first no matter what. And now Sam wants to renege on that?  After his big sob scene about how he wants to be important to Dean?

And Dean, selfish? Dean makes sacrifices only when it doesn't hurt him? The man has been making sacrifices his entire life for Sam and others that have wounded him in the deepest ways possible. He's given his childhood, his soul, his death, his love, his future, his whole life and everything at much cost to himself for Sam and others over and over.

Dean went to Hell for Sam--I'm pretty sure that damaged him forever and ever. Dean made sacrifices for Sam growing up that hurt him all the time--some of its canon now (Bad Boys? Something Wicked?). Dean sacrificed Lisa and Ben for their own good at a great deal of hurt to himself. Dean wanted to say yes to Michael, not because of any benefit for himself, but because he wanted to save the world. Sam was the one who said no and then turned around and did the same exact thing. There's no reason Dean could not have said yes to Michael with the same result as Sam's yes. But Sam took that away from him. Stole Dean's "agency" to make that selfless sacrifice (because Dean wasn't doing it to redeem himself). That whole time period was about Sam begging Dean to live for him. Because the world was better with them in it together and because he didn't want to do it without Dean. What happened to that Sam?

Dean killed Benny, someone he considered his brother, for Sam and you could see the cost of that sacrifice all over Dean's face. Again, Dean wanted to do the trials, which was a selfless sacrifice on Dean's part, no avoiding pain for Dean there--I could keep going on and on.

How dare Sam say that to Dean when Sam's always been about making sacrifices to ease his guilt trips or to "redeem" himself in some way--'cause, yeah, that's totally selfless. Is Sam maybe projecting?

But, yeah, people think Sam was 100% correct in what he said.

More than that, though, what exactly is this show based on? Because I was under the impression that it was about family and doing anything for family. I thought the whole premise of this show was based on the idea that Sam and Dean would do anything for each other and also for their friends. And now all of a sudden people think this is WRONG? That it's unhealthy? Well, maybe it is unhealthy in real life, but this is the whole foundation of a show that is anything but realistic. Since when did we want Sam and Dean's relationship to be like everyone else? Since when did everyone decide that the whole foundation of the show was wrong and wanted it to be changed?

If Dean is wrong for his choices, then this whole show has been a big farce, a big waste of time. We've spent years being told that family was above all, that love was most important, that Dean and Sam would always save each other no matter what. Anyone recall All Hell Breaks Loose Part 2? Swan Song? Anyone? And now we are saying that's wrong? Really? If that's the case, then I'm ready for the show to end. Just end it now before the entire thing is completely ruined beyond repair.

People are asking for the basic premise of the entire series to be changed under the guise of a more healthy relationship, which, apparently consists of a Sam and Dean who are ghosts of their former selves. In my opinion, the only thing that's been "wrong" with Sam and Dean's relationship is the fact that it's been too one-sided for far too long. The only thing that needs to be "fixed" is how Sam doesn't get a chance to show us he loves Dean too (if that's even true anymore). Instead, Sam's become increasingly indifferent and cold toward Dean in the name of a "healthy" relationship and "progress."

What's been wrong about their dynamic is how SAM asks Dean to sacrifice OTHERS to focus solely on HIM. Cas, Benny, whoever. If Sam could learn to let Dean have friends and not manipulate Dean into a corner where he feels he must CHOOSE, then the problem of people being thrown off a ledge in the name of Sam and Dean's relationship wouldn't be an issue. Sam's the one who constantly needs Dean to pull his bacon out of the fire, to save him over and over. Even the fans have put the onus of Sam's salvation on Dean's shoulders, expecting him to play the big brother role and only that role. And Sam's all too happy to let him when it suits him. If Sam wants Dean to let him go, treat him like an equal, then Sam needs to step up to that plate and start swinging at the curve balls thrown his way. He needs to own his mistakes and support Dean like an adult. You are only a victim if you let yourself be one. Be a survivor, Sam, not a victim.

Its not Dean's great love for Sam that's the problem. Okay? So just get off Dean's back. He's only done what was expected from him all along. Sam has made sure Dean was alone, only focused on Sam and now he suddenly doesn't want it? Well, screw that. You begged for it, you got it. Lay in the bed you made. And let's not forget that Sam has had a healthy hand in perpetuating lies, deception and taking away the agency of others--he really shouldn't be pointing fingers. People in glasses houses, man.

As for that mythical healthy relationship--is that what we really want? We suddenly want Winchesters who let their sibling die? Who won't make sacrifices? Who won't go to extremes in the grand name of love? Really? Then exactly why have we been watching this show all this time? We knew the deal going into this show and its a complete cop out to decide Dean's all wrong for making those choices. Dean's wrong for being the big brother everyone loved so much, that he wasn't allowed to be anything else.

I don't know where all this will lead, but, right now, I don't know what show I'm watching anymore and I don't understand the glee over last night's gut-wrenching talk. It went against everything this show is supposed to be about. Everything Kripke promised us it would always be about. Family is the theme of the show--family above all (and by family, I don't mean just family by blood). Its a little late to be saying the whole theme was all wrong and bad, bad, bad. Take that away, then every episode prior falls down like a stack of cards.

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